There was a link in Facebook, which was apparently anti feminist. The article had been removed because it was “hateful and abusive” by the “community” on the site hosting said article. By this, it likely meant that it hurt someone’s feelings, some people disagreed, others personally didn’t like it; and importantly it probably hit upon too much truth or issues of contention.
There is another article, which is a mirror opposite, and it is still up. I began reading it and desperately wanted to share a grown up perspective of a woman who escaped fantasy land years ago and has been a grown up living in the real world for some time. If you like face palming, here is the feminist link http://thoughtcatalog.com/isla-sofia/2014/04/18-reasons-why-the-concept-of-female-privilege-is-insane/
1. Female disadvantage is walking down the street at night, having to worry about being attacked or raped. Female disadvantage is having to carry mace everywhere you go, even though the chances of it actually protecting you are slim.
Is this really a disadvantage? Does that mean a man’s capacity to rape is an advantage? In my experience, men are vehemently – often violently – opposed to rape. I know of a case (I was not involved, I only know of it second hand, which is hersay) where a cabbie ran over an attempted rapist so he couldn’t escape before the police arrived. He did the right thing, but that could still being serious trouble on him. Fathers and brothers go to the point of killing assailants. That female “disadvantage” affects everyone and communities, which is part of why it’s a serious crime. Serious crimes against humanity and the law are not “female disadvantages”. Sorry sweetheart, but it is a fact that evil men prey on vulnerable women. Not on night streets either; in daylight on trains and busses, online, luring through dating, and yes using women as bait to get rape victims. I suppose if the OP wasn’t so liberal, they would live where they can carry a gun. If they are truly worried about this as an active danger they would carry a weapon regardless.
2. Female disadvantage is being approached by men who think they have a right to your body. And when you turns said man down, you are called a bitch, or a prude, or stuck up, or whore — or even all of those and more. Female disadvantage is being told you should be thankful a man even looked your way.
I’m going to take a shot in the dark (brightly lit room with a flashing bullseye) and guess this approaching happens when one is “looking their best” and the one who approaches isn’t appealing. If the men were models or movie stars, these girls would happily let them have a right to their bodies. They only get angry when the men don’t live up to their expectations. Men are usually afraid of approaching women and the only time I’ve seen this happen or be spoken of as an issue, is when the guys “weren’t hot”. When you are putting yourself out there you should be happy men took notice, as that was the whole ego-inflating, self satisfying, point. The only “female disadvantage” here is the men didn’t live up to fantasy. The men who hit on you weren’t the specific ones you wanted, ergo men think they have a right to you”. (The insults usually come for luring men on, or actually being those things, or dealing with immature college boys. Honestly, if you were really big strong, able women who were at least equal to men, why are you so wounded? Why aren’t you just rolling your eyes and walking away?)
3. Female disadvantage is being taken advantage of when you’re drunk and being told it’s your own fault for drinking and putting yourself in that situation.
Did someone force you to get drunk? It actually is your own fault for getting that drunk. You aren’t claiming drugging, just that you were an idiot while drunk. For all you know, the guy is as disgusted by you are you are by him. Men own up to their stupid drunk “decisions”. Women cry that it’s a crime. Not very empowering. You made a choice, while wasted. Just because you regret it later, or wouldn’t have made that decision while sober, doesn’t mean you were taken advantage of. You still made your choice. Men get taken advantage of, too. You obviously know getting drunk and having random sex with guys is a problem, yet you whine that you have to take responsibility for your actions (like a big girl). You even know far ahead of time that it’s a possible problem, yet here is the OP crying about being forced to own up to her mistakes – before even making them. Maybe one should make different choices? You already know this choice gets you in trouble. Goodness you’re a dumb child.
4. Female disadvantage is turning on the TV and seeing beautiful women portrayed as air-headed, vain, stupid, and sexually promiscuous while women that are in position of power are seen as pushy, bossy, less desirable, and often less attractive.
Tell me about all those amazing husbands and fathers one sees on TV? Oh wait, they’re all fat idiots who need their wives to explain life to them and why they can’t always do stupid things without dying. They usually make lousy fathers too, and their kids run roughshod over them, or are partners in crime in immature escapades. The other option is the smart kids and smart wife have to teach “dad” together. Or a la Disney, the amazing children have to teach both parents but mostly idiot dad, about the facts of life and how everything the kid wants is right and how unreasonable and oppressive the parents are.
I do have to say most shaming of beautiful women, I see from feminists. (The most whoring, or desire to sleep around, is also from feminists: so why the complaint on that one?). The television is about the worst litmus test of actual living men and women. Also, feminism promoted the whole idea of that vapid, free loving silly girl who is just too cute and innocent and does whatever she pleases. Welcome to your own ideology biting you in the butt. The female boss thing isn’t usually true, in most shows and movies the boss or leader or great hero soldier is a woman. In some shows, yes, they stereotype a very real thing. I’ve had male and female bosses. Female bosses usually fall into the bossy angry sometimes unattractive (more so by nasty behaviour) category. Real life experience.
5. Female disadvantage is the fact that chivalry and morality are dying to the point where men argue about having to put those less able to protect themselves first.
Are you kidding? Seriously this is a disadvantage? Women killed chivalry, feminism destroys any man who tries – just look at what women say about men who open doors or pay for dinner. Or what they do to them. The problem with chivalry is that it requires ladies for men to be chivalrous towards. Chivalry takes into account the inherent inequalities of men and women. Chivalry relies on women being women, and men being men. Everything in this article is complaining about women being women, and sometimes women being forced to be basic humans with normal human considerations, so it’s no wonder chivalry is dead.
The moral part sort of sickens me. Morality is oppression according to feminism. In one point we have women screaming about being taken advantage of while they behave like men and demand equality, in the next we have women demanding morality which is again based on the inherent differences between men and women and our different roles in life. Morality also often requires the submission of ourselves and desires to a greater good. Morality often requires sacrifice, and while women refuse to participate, they expect men to, for the sake of women. While giving nothing back in return. Women desire morality from men yet desire immorality for themselves. Yes they want to sleep around and have men hitting on them (if they are attractive enough) but they don’t want the men to be using them for sex. This is the logic of feminism.
6. Female disadvantage is being told a woman shouldn’t be allowed to get an abortion, that she’s not a true member of the church if she’s taking birth control, and having old men who cannot and have never had to worry about getting pregnant fight over her reproductive rights. Female disadvantage is a man refusing to support his own child, leaving her to raise it on her own.
She shouldn’t be (allowed to kill babies). And she isn’t (part of the church if she disobeys God – birth control is a huge sin: Onan was struck dead for it in the Bible). Over half of females are pro life, and the vast majority (surprising number so) of young women, and even pre teen girls, are against abortion. It’s mostly men who are for abortion. They get all the sex they want, don’t even need to be responsible, and they can just rely on the women to kill his offspring. He gets all the wins, while she gets all the risks, including fistulas, infertility and death. The baby always loses. I will add that those “evil old men” are the ones taking responsibility for their actions and will be the ones expecting to have to raise the offspring they produced and pay for them, and you. Also, what about male reproductive rights? Are men not involved too? Do women simply asexually spawn children within their wombs? Why is it only women who have reproductive rights (euphemism as we aren’t talking about the right to reproduce, but to stop reproduction or to kill the products of reproducing)? Do men reproduce or not, and could it be they are trying to save their own reproductive rights? Perhaps they are trying to save their sons and daughters from horrific deaths at the hands of the children’s mothers?
Why do women always want it both ways? Here is my problem with this whole idea of child support. Is a man responsible or not? If a man is responsible for paying for his offspring, and helping the woman, than he has a say over his offspring. If it is a woman’s body, a man owns a woman nothing for her autonomy over her own body and her own choices. No man should have to pay women for their bodies and their choices. If aborting a child is a woman’s choice because it is her body, then having the baby is also her choice and her body. There is no male involvement here. Only when we admit that babies are also a man’s, that a baby is not a woman’s body, and that it is not a woman’s choice but a human being who is as much its father as its mother, can we talk about child support.